A lot of couples worry about their choice of song for their first dance. It’s a pressure filled moment for so many reasons. Firstly, because, well…it’s your FIRST DANCE! You need to get it right, and it needs to be something you both decide on.
Second, every guest at your wedding is going to be thinking about your choice of song. Have you chosen the same one as everyone else, or have you picked one that is a little bit weird (Itsy Bitsy Teen Weeny Yellow Polka Dot Bikini anyone?)?
In order to give you some inspiration about what other couples have chosen, here’s a list of the top 10 wedding first dance songs in the UK (according to Spotify). If you’re outside of the UK, you can see a global list of wedding first dance songs here. If your chosen song is on here, it will either be great news, as it reaffirms that you’re a smart cookie and have chosen wisely; or completely galling, when you realise that you haven’t been quite as unique and creative as you first thought.
So, whether it’s for inspiration or anti-inspiration, the list should be good food for thought.
So, the most popular wedding first dance songs are….
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Ed Sheeran – Thinking Out Loud
Etta James – At Last
John Legend – All Of Me
Lonestar – Amazed
Jack Johnson – Better Together
Al Green Let’s Stay Together
Christina Perri – A Thousand Years
Adele – Make You Feel My Love
Jason Mraz – I’m Yours
The GooGoo Dolls – Iris
Was your first dance song on there?
If so, are you happy?
If you’re not happy and you’re worried about your wedding being seen as similar to so and so’s wedding (who also had the same first dance song as you), there are a couple of options:
1. To develop the ability to not care about what other people may think – after all, it’s YOUR wedding day. “So what if Janice had Iris as her first song. We both love the song, and we both want it, so we’re going to have it!”. You go girl!
2. Have the same song, but in a different style. Instead of having a record, why not have a live singer perform the song for your first dance? What about performing the song yourself, or getting a family member trained up to do it? It doesn’t need to be perfect; it just needs to be good enough, mean something and be special, and having the father of the bride sing a haunting ballad would surely do that. Also, who’s going to criticise the Father of the bride? “Hey Frank! You’re a great guy and you look fabulous but your vibrato need work!”
3. Blend two songs together? This could be a great solution if you and the groom can’t decide on the perfect song. Why not use a service such as Fiverr, Freelancer or one of the many other services out there to hire a music professional/lonely, but keen amateur to see if he can create something special with both tracks, so that you’re both happy?
4. If you’re wanting your song to be different, you could also see if you can find it in a different style or tempo to the original. in 2003, Bon Jovi, released an album (“This Left Feels Right“), consisting entirely of old songs, sung in a different style, so this is definitely an option. What’s that? You don’t think there’s a version of Telly Savalas singing “Something” out there, or a house version of U2’s “Pride (In The Name of Love)”? Oh, how wrong you are!
5. Write your own song. After all, if you can write your own vows, why not the song for the first dance? If you have any musical talent at all, you might be able to pull this off, but if you don’t, you don’t have to rule out this option completely. How about writing down some meaningful words, expressions of love and feelings and, using Fiverr and Freelancer links above, paying someone else to create a short song based on them? Sure, it would require a bit of cash and planning, but you would have an awesome first dance that you and your guests would remember for ever!
So, there you it. The most popular songs to have your first dance to and a few ideas on how you can make even the most cliched song unique and memorable. Feel free to comment or email me with some of your own suggestions.